- 15 LGBTQ+ Dad Influencers to Follow
- Jason Hanna |@2_dallas_dads
- Tyler Fontes |@fontes_four_pack
- Tim & Nic | @brisvegasdad
- Luca Andrisani |@2daddies1baby
- Mauricio & Stephen |@mydosdads
- Dustin P. Smith |@dustin_patrick_smith
- Burton B. Buffaloe |@bbbuffaloe
- Richard & Carlos | @therealdadsofnewyork
- Devon Gibby |@dadndaddies
- Jamie Beaglehole |@daddyanddad
- Terrell & Jarius Joseph | @terrell.and.jarius
- Follow The LGBTQ+ Leaders of Positive Change
- 10 Trailblazing Gay Dads Who Inspired Me
- Jesse Tyler Ferguson & Justin Mikita
- Anderson Cooper
- Andy Cohen
- Nate Berkus & Jeremiah Brent
- Greg Berlanti & Robbie Rogers
- Ricky Martin & Jwan Yosef
- Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka
- Alec Mapa and Jamison Hebert
- Dan Bucatinsky & Don Roos
- Mario Lavandeira (aka Perez Hilton)
- What I Wish My Parents Had Said When I Came Out As Gay | CBC Parents
- Coming Out To My Family
- What To Do: Let Your Child Talk, And Be There to Listen
- What To Do: Ask Them How You Can Help
- What To Do: Celebrate Your Child’s Future
- What To Do: Trust Your Child
- What To Do: Just Be There
- What To Do: Love Your Child
15 LGBTQ+ Dad Influencers to Follow
The month of June is packed with worldwide celebrations, however, the most notable being Father’s Day on June 21st, as well as the festivities of Pride Month.
It’s a long way to go before LGBTQ+ families are completely normalized, but thanks to these LGBTQ+ dad influencers, that process is being sped up a little bit every single day as they continue to fight for positive social change and equal rights.
The Influence Agency has rounded up our favourite LGBTQ+ dad influencers who are uplifting their community with incredible messages and sharing adventures worth following.
Scroll through to see who they are, then show your support by giving them a follow!
Jason Hanna | @2_dallas_dads
Jason Hanna is one-half of the 2 Dallas Dads on Instagram sharing important information on their surrogacy journey. Anyone who’s looking for more details on the process will find that these LGBTQ+ dad influencers have the answers!
Also, the cuteness of their twin boys (or wiggle worms as they lovingly call them) is more than enough to make you hit that follow button.
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Tyler Fontes | @fontes_four_pack
The Fontes Four Pack is always out to seek new adventures, and by tapping that follow button you automatically become part of all the fun! They might even help you discover your next travel destination.
Not only will they encourage you to unleash your inner adventurer, but you’ll be scrolling through their feed just to catch glimpses into their lives with their two adorable little boys.
Tim & Nic | @brisvegasdad
Follow along with Tim and Nic’s adventures on Instagram as they live their best lives raising their two kids. Each of Tim’s posts share a special message about love, life, and acceptance — and we know that you’ll love what he has to say.
Luca Andrisani | @2daddies1baby
When there’s two daddies and one little girl, you just know that no one will dare to mess with that baby. Little Elena has two super dads raising her in this world, and we just love seeing the journey of this family on Instagram.
These LGBTQ+ dad influencers are also encouraging their followers to “make decisions love, not fear” — and that’s just a little snippet of how inspiring their content is!
Mauricio & Stephen | @mydosdads
When these two Florida-based dads wrote, “the family who eats ice cream together, stays together,” – we never felt more understood.
The Instagram content of these LGBTQ+ dad influencers, Mauricio and Stephen, is always as bright as the colours of the rainbow. Plus, they recently published a book about their adoption journey of little miss Bella, and all proceeds are being donated towards the National Council for Adoption!
Dustin P. Smith | @dustin_patrick_smith
Dustin P. Smith is quickly gaining popularity for his vlog called Dustin and Burton – Raising Buffaloes. He and husband, Burton, are proud dads to their twins, Stone and Holland. Through their vlog they share everything about what it’s being gay dads raising their little Buffaloes in the South!
These LGBTQ+ dad influencers are using their platform to share their parenting and fatherhood journey, marriage tips, and to shed light on gay rights and equality. Go dads!
Burton B. Buffaloe | @bbbuffaloe
The other half of the Raising Buffaloes duo is on our list of top LGBTQ+ dad influencers, too!
Follow Burton B. Buffaloe to catch entertaining content on #twinlife and #farmlife, as well as some laid-back, yet fashionable style diaries. Trust us, you’ll love the “Mermaid Makeovers” courtesy of little Holland.
Richard & Carlos | @therealdadsofnewyork
Richard and Carlos’ curated Instagram feed is absolute #CoupleGoals. Their love for each other and their son is evident in every picture that they post. Give them a follow to see what their version of a white picket fence kinda life is all about!
Devon Gibby | @dadndaddies
There’s no denying that Devon Gibby is a fun dad! His content and captions are always sprinkled with a dash of humour in them — and they’re exactly what you need as your daily dose of laughter.
Whether he’s sharing his political views, his perspective on LGBTQ+ rights, or simply playing epic games with his twin sons, Devon Gibby will make you tap that follow button instantly.
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Jamie Beaglehole | @daddyanddad
Jamie Beaglehole is the daddy from the popular blog Daddy & Dad. This award-winning site has even been named as Great Britain’s #1 family lifestyle blog and is recognized as one of the top 20 LGBTQ+ parenting blogs. It’s all about the life of two dads and two boys — and it has captivated audiences everywhere!
From the highs and lows of adoptive parenting to LGBTQ+ news, these dad influencers provide valuable content that you shouldn’t miss out on.
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Terrell & Jarius Joseph | @terrell.and.jarius
Terrell and Jarius first actually met at college when they were dating other people. Once they realized they were meant to be, nothing could stop them from deciding to live life together and they are now parents to two adorable kids, Ashton and Aria. LGBTQ+ dadvocates, they strive to help normalize LGBTQ+ parenting by redefining what marriage and family look .
Terrell and Jarius invite their followers to follow along on their family’s journey. Follow their shared Instagram account or check out their website to keep up to date!
Follow The LGBTQ+ Leaders of Positive Change
Following these LGBTQ+ dad influencers will literally incorporate the colours of the rainbow to your newsfeed! Through their content, they’re not just entertaining their followers but also pushing for positive social change.
They are powerful voices in their communities and that’s why brands love collaborating with them for their campaigns.
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If you’d to join our vast database of influencers, you’ll find all the information right here.
- Dale David is a Content Writer at The Influence Agency. She's also a sneaker-wearing, guitar-playing, light wash denim-clad, pizza-munching, proud European '90s baby.View all posts
10 Trailblazing Gay Dads Who Inspired Me
When I was a gay teenager growing up in the nineties (sidenote: flannel shirts are making a comeback), I never imagined a future where I’d one day be able to have a child of my own. It just wasn’t a thing back then.
Truth be told, being openly gay wasn’t really a thing back then either. At least not in my high school. The thought of coming out during that time was, quite frankly, dangerous.
With anti-gay politics sweeping the nation and very few nondiscrimination protections in place… it was hard out here for a pimp-ly kid.
Luckily there were glimmers of hope for boys me. MTV’s Real World introduced us to courageous, able gay men NYC’s artsy Norman, New Orleans’ adorable Danny and San Francisco’s unforgettable Pedro. From there, little by little, more trailblazers Ellen, Elton, Melissa Etheridge, KD Lang and George Michael began opening the door for many brave souls to follow.
Though, during this time period, no major out gay celebrity had children of their own. I said, it just wasn’t a thing back then. So I didn’t believe it would be a thing for me.
Cut to 25 years later.
We are making up for lost time. Same-sex couples can now legally get married and adopt children in all 50 states, and there’s a growing number of states in favor of laws regarding surrogacy for gay dads. In other words, we’ve come a long way, baby.
Today’s generation of impressionable teens now have their pick of gay celebrity dads to follow on social media, read about on newsstands and be inspired by on big and small screens. Thankfully, kids of today have what so many of us lacked when we were their age—hope that the dream of starting a family can one day become a reality.
Here are ten inspiring examples of beautiful gay dad families in the public eye that are doing a wonderful job normalizing the concept of fatherhood for the world to see! To these men, and countless others willing to go public with their family journeys, thank you for your visibility and for your inspiration. Because of you, gay people of all ages see what’s possible for themselves.
Jesse Tyler Ferguson & Justin Mikita
President Elect (man, I love saying that), Joe Biden, once credited Will and Grace as having done more to shift public perception on the issue of gay marriage than anything else. I’d argue that Modern Family has had a similar impact in shifting people’s perception of what a loving two-dad family looks .
But Jesse Tyler Ferguson’s legacy didn’t stop there. He and his handsome husband, Justin Mikita (lawyer and Tony-winning Broadway producer) welcomed their first child—Beckett Mercer Ferguson-Mikita—this year showing us what a modern family looks off script.
And if you ask me, the role of Daddy fits these two very well.
I’ve been following Anderson Cooper’s impressive career since he was a brunette fox journalist-in-training on Channel 1’s in-school broadcasts when I was in middle school.
I had the privilege of meeting Anderson a couple of years ago, and I told him that having read his terrific, sensitive memoir, Dispatches from the Edge, I thought he’d make an incredible father someday. Turns out, he was secretly in the process of planning to have a baby via surrogacy. He welcomed a beautiful baby boy, Wyatt Morgan Cooper, this year.
Named after Anderson’s late father, Wyatt is co-parented with Anderson’s close friend and former partner, Benjamin Maisani. What are the chances Wyatt inherits his father’s adorable uncontrollable giggle?
One can’t talk about Anderson Cooper, without showing some love to his BFF, the other famous AC, Andy Cohen.
In 2019, the Real Housewives wrangler welcomed his son, Benjamin, to the world via surrogacy and he’s raising the child on his own, which speaks volumes to how much Andy wanted a family.
Check out Andy on the ‘gram (@bravoandy) to enjoy all the NYC shananigians Andy and Benjamin get themselves into. The Watch What Happens Live star is a triple threat: He’s charming, successful, and a wonderful hands-on father. Bravo, indeed!
Nate Berkus & Jeremiah Brent
I was inspired to come out to my family after watching interior design guru Nate Berkus share the harrowing story of losing his then partner, Fernando, when the two were vacationing in Sri Lanka during the devastating tsunami in 2004. Back then, I remember thinking, I sure hope he finds true love again.
Not only has he found love—and marriage—with fellow designer and TV host Jeremiah Brent, but they went on to welcome two beautiful children via surrogacy, 6-year old Poppy and 3-year old, Oskar.
Nate and Jeremiah’s instagram accounts (@nateberkus & @jeremiahbrent) are the perfect blend of adorable family photos and stunning design inspiration, as if we need another reason to stan this stylish duo.
Greg Berlanti & Robbie Rogers
A lot of the progress we’ve made as a community is in part thanks to prolific TV producer, Greg Berlanti and his professional soccer playing husband turned TV producer, Robbie Rogers. Greg has been creating soulful LGBTQ+ stories long before it was the trendy thing to do.
20 years ago he wrote the first gay romantic dramedy, The Broken Hearts Club starring the then unknown Billy Porter. He also ran several seasons of Dawson’s Creek, Brothers and Sisters, and directed the charming and important John Hughes-esque Love, Simon.
He’s been inspiring us with un-stereotypical gay characters for decades. Robbie, for his part, was the first brave athlete in pro sports to come out when he played for the LA Galaxy. Together, they share two adorable kids, Caleb (4) and Mia (1) who were born via surrogacy.
And yes, the kids have inherited Greg’s cute smile and Robbie’s chic style.
Ricky Martin & Jwan Yosef
Pop singer and actor Ricky Martin wasn’t out publicly when he welcomed twin sons, Matteo and Valentino in 2008 via a surrogate. Two years later he acknowledged being gay on his official website and he’s been Livin’ la Vida Loca ever since.
After marrying painter Jwan Yosel in 2017, the couple welcomed two more children into the brood: daughter Lucia in 2018, and son Renn in 2019. Ricky is quoted as saying he just wants his family to be seen as normal.
Thanks to his visibility as a gay father with millions of fans all over the world, Ricky is doing more than he knows to help normalize the idea of gay parenting.
Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka
He sings. He acts. He does magic… but none of Neil Patrick Harris’ many talents compare to his role of father to 10-year old twins, Gideon and Harper.
Whether they’re vacationing with Elton John’s family or winning the Internet with coordinating Halloween costumes, Neil and his handsome husband—professional chef and actor—David Burtka make being dads look so much fun. Don’t believe me? Check out their family-friendly presence on social media (@nph).
Want even more NPH? Check out his underrated performance in the 1988 film Clara’s Heart where he played opposite Whoopie Goldberg. A wonderful little gem of a movie.
Alec Mapa and Jamison Hebert
Funny man, Alec Mapa (Ugly Betty, Desperate Housewives) and his actor/producer husband, Jamison, created their picture-perfect family through foster adoption in 2010. As soon as they saw a picture of then 5-year old Zion, they knew he was their kid.
Together, they chronicled their journey through the adoption process in the wonderfully funny and moving documentary Baby Daddy, in 2014.
Follow Alec’s Instagram account (@alecmapa) for more laugh-out-loud family moments that are always relatable, extremely heartfelt, and a lot of bit extra.
Dan Bucatinsky & Don Roos
Actor/writer/producer Dan Bucantinsky (Scandal, The Comeback) and his writer/director husband, Don Roos (The Opposite Of Sex, Younger, This Is Us) are among Hollywood’s most talented power couples. With a long and impressive list of IMDB credits, becoming fathers to daughter Eliza (15) and son Jonah (12) is truly their best work yet.
Dan chronicled their adoption journey in the laugh-out-loud, then cry-out-loud, then laugh-out-loud again memoir, Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight? Dan and Don were one of the first famous gay couples to start a family—their story went on to inspire me and my husband Alex to start our family shortly thereafter (our son Maxwell was born in 2010).
So trust me when I say visibility matters.
Mario Lavandeira (aka Perez Hilton)
Celebrity blogger and reality star Perez Hilton wasn’t going to let finding Mr. Right delay the start of his family. Proudly on his own, he welcomed not one, not two, but three beautiful children with the help of a surrogate.
Son Mario (7) and daughters Mia (5) and Myete (3) make up the lovely brood—their full house is rounded out by grandma Teresita, who’s always on hand to help with the kids.
Mario has his hands full with three glorious kids, his popular entertainment blog, stints on reality TV, a wonderful children’s book about being yourself—The Boy With The Pink Hair—and his latest best-selling memoir, TMI: My Life in Scandal.
What I Wish My Parents Had Said When I Came Out As Gay | CBC Parents
This story was updated as of October 7, 2021
I didn't come out to my parents the way I wanted to.
I was too terrified to tell them, mostly because I grew up Catholic. And because my parents are homophobic.
I was so Catholic, I could sit, stand and genuflect on command. I could smell a first reading of St. Paul to the Corinthians coming from a mile away. And I was even awarded a medal for being an altar boy.
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As for my parents being homophobic, I had many reasons to suspect this as a child.
My father said «faggot» and «queer» (pejoratively) with abandon, when a ref made a bad call during a hockey game. Meanwhile my mother would point at people she suspected were gay, and make a limp wrist gesture to me.
I didn't know what allyship meant, but even so, I knew these people weren't allies, and I decided they were the last people I'd ever want to come out to. Their attitudes also made me feel the world would be just as hostile. And for many, it absolutely is.
So, at first, when I was finally ready — on my 20th birthday — I began coming out to everyone but my family. After way too long hiding who I was, and some dangerous situations that tend to happen when you're trying to act on who you are, but don't have the reference or support to handle it.
Newly out, I attended my first gay bar with a friend and I slowly started to feel I was getting to know the real me. I felt OK that my parents didn't know and may not ever know. I was starting to feel so comfortable, I put a postcard for a future gay party in my pant pocket and took it home.
Coming Out To My Family
My father did my laundry, and he found the flyer in my pocket while collecting my dirty clothes. I was still sleeping when he did this, because he sometimes kept odd hours, and he shook me awake and said «what is this?»
Completely it, I said «It's nothing, I just found it and put it in my pocket.»
I then drifted back to sleep, but not before my dad shook me again and said, «Kevin, what the f—k is this? Are you gay? If you're gay you can tell me.»
Frustrated, mostly because I was trying to sleep, I slurred, «Fine, I'm gay. I'm going back to bed.» He went completely silent and left the room.
Nowadays, you can see some really charming — and sometimes cringey — coming out stories on social media, complete with supportive parents choking back tears that eventually flood their face.
That's not what I needed back then, but what actually happened wasn't ideal.
I just needed kindness.
What To Do: Let Your Child Talk, And Be There to Listen
When I woke up later, I realized that it was going to be uncomfortable. My mother told me to leave my father alone, because he didn't want to talk.
«If your son or daughter comes out to you, please listen. Hug them if you can't find the words.»
If you have a child who is coming out to you, I wouldn't recommend this. It's not comforting to immediately feel you've done something wrong, simply because you've made the decision to feel comfortable in your own skin.
I can also tell you that actively not talking to your son or daughter during an extremely sensitive and vulnerable moment is the easiest way to make a human being feel the loneliest person in the world. I awkwardly moved around the house, alone with my own thoughts.
What To Do: Ask Them How You Can Help
When I finally saw my father, he was crying with his head hanging. My mother had been crying, too — her face, tear-stained.
Again, I wouldn't recommend this as an approach to the coming out experience. When a child is coming out, it should be prideful, happy. As parents, you might find it confusing or surprising, and that's fine.
But if this is the case, I'd look at this moment as a good opportunity to listen to your child, to find out what they need. Ask questions , «how are you feeling?» and «what can I do to help?» It's really that simple.
That would have been a lot better for me than what came next.
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What To Do: Celebrate Your Child’s Future
After the tears and the silent treatment, one of the first things my father said to me was, «You're going to die of AIDS.»
This prompted my mother to tell me about someone who lived nearby who was «dying from AIDS.»
For context, I'm from Toronto, lest you think I'm from a small town where this might «make sense.» To be honest, I don't think this behaviour should make sense anywhere.
Here's another tip: Scaring your child back in the closet is not something I would recommend to parents, either. I knew of HIV/AIDS, of course, but I hadn't had penetrative sex yet.
But because I wasn't really getting support, and instead being told how I would die (instead of, say, how great it will be to live), it only made me feel even more who I was was something bad, or to be feared.
«If you need to process things because the news makes you angry or sad, that isn't a weight to put on the shoulders of the person coming out.»
For many people living their life in the proverbial closet, fear is already present. There's the fear of losing friends and family. There's the fear of not belonging as they march the halls of their school. There's the fear that they could be harmed in some way, simply because their sexuality doesn't align with what some of the world deems acceptable.
It can be easy to assume that society has evolved to a place where everyone is accepted, because of the increasing visibility in a lot of TV shows and movies. But not everyone lives in an idealized town on Netflix.
Visibility matters, but so does personal action. Change doesn't happen without work, and sometimes that means taking a purposeful and uncomfortable look inside ourselves to figure out why our attitudes are the way they are. Where do they come from?
As parents, if you choose to punctuate a person's fear of coming out with your own negative attitudes or shortsightedness, think about it this way: when has piling fear on top of fear ever made a situation easier for someone?
What To Do: Trust Your Child
Granted, not all coming out stories will be this intense, and I hope they aren't, but it's important to see how bad they get to avoid being insensitive to the needs of a child who is probably scared and confused, but really wants to come out because holding it in is work.
Sometimes it's too much work.
Sometimes the weight of that work results in tragedy.
But it doesn't have to, and that's where I think you come in.
It got worse for me. My parents couldn't handle it, and on a number of occasions I was asked by my dad, «are you sure?» Again, not recommended.
When someone is coming out — forced or willingly — they are sure. Someone isn't going to turn around and say, «You know what? You're right.
I've thought about it and I was totally influenced by a queer TikToker. But I really just d their clothes!»
What To Do: Just Be There
Being there for someone coming out shouldn't be this difficult. Maybe it's against your religion to be gay, but what is more important? Your child or your religion? Period.
If it's your religion, maybe what happened to me next is going to be a blessing for your LGBTQ child, who wants to be themself but doesn't have the environment to thrive.
«You simply need to be there. To listen. To offer tenderness. To be joyful. To celebrate. To love.»
As a parent or a caregiver, friend or family member of someone coming out, you simply need to be there. To listen. To offer tenderness. To be joyful. To celebrate. To love.
If you need to process things because the news makes you angry or sad, that isn't a weight to put on the shoulders of the person coming out.
That is work that you need to do yourself, and it is extremely unfair to make someone's coming out about you.
Because it's about them.
Because it was about me.
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What To Do: Love Your Child
Shortly after I came out, I was told to leave.
I was poor, scared and I had to fight for many, many years to make sure I had enough money to live and go to school.
I went hungry often.
Eventually I found a surrogate family of friends and lovers. And so many gay people before me, I don't have a relationship with my parents, and haven't for well over a decade.
That's a particularly difficult part of this whole story, because it's loss. And loss is horrifying when it's unpreventable, and it's no less so when it's preventable.
So when you're out a family, you then need to find a new one, I did. But I don't want to romanticize, because finding your chosen family or families takes time. And during that formative period, there are hiccups. There are dangerous situations. There are low moments.
«In that moment, they may feel alone and scared, left to pick up all the pieces.»
Sure, there are wins, and there is excitement and joy, but it's a challenge. And challenges can often be made less of a hardship with a good support behind you.
When family is removed, because of an unwillingness to support someone for their identity, a person is kind of shot right back to day one. At least it felt that way to me.
In that moment, they may feel alone and scared, left to pick up all the pieces. It's character-building, sure, and I think people to say that to dismiss the difficult conversations that arise with subjects this, but I would have sacrificed some of my endless character for a little bit of love.
This doesn't need to be a repeating pattern for the LGBTQ community, but it is very much, to varying degrees, a popular story arc in the LGBTQ experience.
If your child comes out to you today, or any day, please listen. Hug them if you can't find the words. If you need to do the work to feel OK, do the work. But please don't make them the villain.
And if you need some support of your own, PFLAG is a great organization. I wish my own parents had been cool enough to drop them a line.